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Do we really need enemies? Talking remorse, tactical empathy, and polarization with Kat Woods
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Do we really need enemies? Talking remorse, tactical empathy, and polarization with Kat Woods

Hesitation Media Podcast: Season 2 Episode 5

Episode Summary

In this episode, Brian sits down with Kat Woods—an advocate for ethical discourse and AI safety—to explore how we can transform polarized online interactions into opportunities for deeper understanding. They discuss the idea of Empathic Journalism, examine the Friend-Enemy Distinction, and delve into Creative Hatred, Loving Kindness and Apology Languages as tools for navigating moral dilemmas without simply “rage-baiting” or shutting down dissent. Kat also raises the urgency of AI Safety, explaining why our evolving digital landscape demands careful, value-aligned development.

Throughout the conversation, ecological metaphors like the Man-Eating Bear and Tsunami reframe destructive behaviors as problems to be solved rather than enemies to hate. Together Brian and Kat develop the Trophic/Predation Distinction as a kind of Eco-Schmittian critique of political enemies.

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Episode Highlights

  1. Kat’s ‘Rage Bait’ Regret

    • How one emotional Facebook post fueled conflict—and what Kat learned about apologizing when it truly violates personal ethics.

  2. Empathic Journalism & Jungian Shadow Work

    • Brian’s passion for understanding hidden motivations aligns with the principle of exploring our own “shadow” before passing judgment on others.

  3. Friend-Enemy Distinction vs. Problem-Solving

    • Referencing Carl Schmitt’s political theory, Kat suggests seeing destructive ideologies as “bears” or “tsunamis”—dangerous, but not inherently evil.

  4. Channeling Anger Constructively

    • Avoiding absolute moral condemnations, Kat and Brian discuss “Creative Hatred” or “Sublimation” to redirect rage into productive outlets.

  5. AI Safety & Medicalizing Evil

    • Shifting from interpersonal ethics to global concerns: Kat underlines how misaligned AI could pose catastrophic risks and why preventing “evil” actions may involve understanding psychological or structural roots.


Key Excerpt

“A friend reached out to me and said, ‘Wow, that was perfect rage bait.’ I realized I’d become what I hated—someone urging people to unfriend me if they disagreed. I still oppose what they believe, but threatening friendship breaks my own ethic of bridging divides.”
Kat

Why It Stands Out

  • Illustrates how moral convictions can clash with the desire to maintain meaningful dialogue

  • Highlights the real-time tension between taking a stand and respecting dissent

Curious about Kat’s perspectives on AI safety, empathy, and bridging cultural divides?

Hesitation Media Outrage Ritual

How It Works

  • Preparation Phase: Create a calm environment before journaling or engaging in potentially hostile debates.

  • Centering Breath: Take three deep, slow breaths before you post or reply online.

  • Divination Process: If you notice yourself triggered by “rage bait,” imagine it as a challenge to practice empathy.

  • Journal Practice: Write down a recent moment of online anger or conflict. Ask: “What boundary did I feel was crossed? Was my reaction proportionate or fueled by something deeper?”

Enter the Chamber

Key Concepts & Themes


Empathic Journalism

Definition: Going beyond mere facts to understand why people do what they do, psychologically and emotionally.
Episode Context: Brian’s “hesitation” approach—slowing down to avoid knee-jerk moralizing.


Friend-Enemy Distinction

Definition: A concept from Carl Schmitt, suggesting society splits into allies vs. existential foes.
Episode Context: Kat argues we can treat harmful behavior like a “tsunami” or “bear,” focusing on containing the danger rather than hating the doer.


Constructive Anger (Sublimation)

Definition: Channeling rage into productive or creative activities instead of aggression.
Episode Context: Brian references psychoanalytic “sublimation” as a path to transform raw hatred into projects or art that advance understanding.


Apology Languages

Definition: Frameworks for sincere apologies—acknowledging harm, promising to change, or offering restitution.
Episode Context: Kat’s public apology included multiple “languages” (e.g., stating regret and committing not to repeat the mistake).


AI Safety

Definition: Ensuring advanced AI systems are aligned with human values and don’t pose existential threats.
Episode Context: Kat highlights AI safety as her main cause area, calling for policy solutions and alignment research.


Tsunami & Bear Metaphors

Definition: Reframing harmful or extreme ideologies as natural forces that can’t be “hated” but must be carefully managed.
Episode Context: Kat uses these metaphors to replace hatred with effective containment or prevention strategies.


Medicalizing Evil

Definition: Viewing harmful behaviors through mental health or psychological frameworks rather than pure moral failure.
Episode Context: Kat sees sociopathy, narcissism, and trauma as factors that may underlie extreme aggression or cruelty.


Jungian Shadow Work

Definition: A process of integrating disowned parts of ourselves—like anger or hatred—so we can handle them more consciously.
Episode Context: Ties into Brian’s approach of empathic journalism, revealing hidden motives in ourselves as well as in our interviewees.


Political Idealism vs. Realism

Definition: Idealism prescribes how politics ought to be; realism weighs actual power dynamics and potential conflicts.
Episode Context: References to Machiavelli and Lenin highlight the tension between utopian visions and hard-nosed political strategy.


Forgiveness & Boundaries

Definition: Extending compassion while protecting yourself from ongoing harm.
Episode Context: Kat’s story of leaving a toxic relationship and later issuing a public apology online exemplifies balancing empathy with self-protection.


Anger vs. Problem-Solving

Definition: Anger signals a moral or personal boundary breach; problem-solving addresses the root cause without feeding polarization.
Episode Context: Kat suggests checking if anger is accurate or proportionate, then choosing dialogue or containment rather than hate.


Loving Kindness (Metta) Practice

Definition: A mindfulness technique focusing on compassion for oneself, loved ones, strangers, and adversaries.
Episode Context: Kat uses loving kindness to quell rising frustration and remain open to opposing views.


Rage Bait

Definition: Content deliberately designed to provoke emotional outrage for clicks or social media engagement.
Episode Context: Kat realizes her post effectively became “rage bait,” fueling the very polarization she seeks to reduce.


Communism & Lenin

Definition: Referenced as an example of political idealism clashing with ethical boundaries.
Episode Context: Brian uses a “Lenin persona” to question how we handle ideologies that prioritize revolution over empathy or happiness.


Eco-Schmittian Politics

Definition: A reinterpretation of Carl Schmitt’s friend-enemy distinction through an ecological lens, where political actors share a “habitat” rather than mere territory. Alliances and enmities shift based on resource flows, interdependencies, and environmental pressures—much like species in an ecosystem.
Episode Context: In the conversation, Brian and Kat extend Schmitt’s ideas to highlight how conflicts may morph into collaborations (and vice versa) depending on changing conditions, rather than being fixed “us vs. them” standoffs.


Trophic/Predation Distinction

Definition: An ecology-inspired view of political relationships in which groups occupy “trophic levels” (e.g., grassroots vs. elites) and can become predators or prey over scarce resources (votes, funds, media attention). Today’s adversary might be tomorrow’s ally if external circumstances shift.
Episode Context: This concept underscores how political actors might “feed” on each other’s support or block access to resources. Kat and Brian compare this to predator-prey dynamics in nature, emphasizing adaptation and survival strategies rather than absolute moral condemnation.


Trophic Friendships & Predatory Enmities

Definition:

  • Trophic Friendships: Symbiotic or mutually beneficial alliances formed when groups exchange resources (visibility, support, credibility).

  • Predatory Enmities: High-stakes rivalries where one entity seeks to deplete, exploit, or dominate another group’s crucial resources, threatening its very survival.
    Episode Context: These notions build on Eco-Schmittian Politics, showing how alliances and rivalries may shift over time. What begins as a parasitic or predatory relationship can morph into a symbiotic arrangement if external threats emerge—or if both parties realize they stand to gain more by collaborating than by clashing.


Reflections & Takeaways

  • Slowing Down to Reflect: Instant posts can spiral into harmful “rage bait,” while hesitation fosters deeper understanding.

  • When Apologies Help (and Hurt): Sincere apologies can rebuild trust if you actually violate your values; forced or hollow apologies just fuel backlash.

  • Empathy ≠ Weakness: Seeing adversaries as problems to solve doesn’t mean failing to act—it means acting with clarity rather than hostility.

  • AI’s Role in Ethics & Polarization: As technology evolves, aligning AI with human-centered values (instead of fueling digital tribalism) grows ever more urgent.

What’s Coming This Season

  • AI Safety Deep Dive: Exploring the ethical, technical, and societal ramifications of emerging AI.

  • Synchronicity & Conspiracy Theories: A closer look at how narratives form—and why they catch on in polarized climates.

  • Dream Magic & Internet Trolling: Juxtaposing the realm of the subconscious with the raw aggression of digital spaces.

  • Further Explorations in Post-Activism: Asking, “What if our reactions to big problems are the problem?”


How to Get Involved

  1. Practice the Ritual

    • Try the divination or journaling steps next time you encounter an infuriating article or viral post.

  2. Support AI Safety

    • If you’re skilled in tech or policy, look into alignment research and initiatives to ensure humane, value-driven AI.

  3. Share Your Insights

    • Write us about how you navigate anger or reflect on your own “rage bait” experiences.


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